But I decided that since this Blog is supposed to be a chronical of my thoughts and experiences within the sex industry... it has the potential to illustrate some of the things that I have vaguely addressed in the past.
So I'm simply going to share a post that I recently made on a review board - addressing the vicious posts that have been made against me and several other massage attendants. Many of these cruel posts have been made by other women with the intention to hurt their peers.
I'm not going to delve too deep in telling the story right now... I am simply going to share one quote, and my own post in a thread from that site that is dedicated to trashing me.
This is just a snap shot of the ugly side of the Internet's impact on the players within the adult industry...
| Jennifer | Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Toronto Posts: 37 |
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| Originally Posted by Unregistered  Favour to ask of the community. Can someone get a cell phone pic of Jenn's teeth and/or gums? I am contemplating taking up smoking rock and I just want to see what effect it has on the grill. I don't have great teeth but if they're gonna come loose from crack will OHIP cover the fake teeth? Sophie how are your chiclettes? |
I don't care who it is - no one deserves to read some of the things that have been written about them on here - not me, not Sophie, not Emily, not Brooke, not Joy and Anita, not Crystal... not Christina and not the mass of other girls who've been bashed from any of the spas.
Do I have a personal beef with one of my peers? Yes - and I have said what
I needed to say on that matter defensively but not with cruelty and only due to the fact that what I was saying was just and unquestionably provoked. It's even safe to say that I would have been just in not restraining myself when I said what I said to keep things "civil" because I know that said peer did not show the same restraint and regard for my feelings. I was kicked long and hard before I even said anything.
I do laugh off this nonsense and I do find it utterly pathetic. I don't expect to make a difference in saying this and I do know that there will be a wave of posts ripping me apart again once this is posted.
But my God people - enough is enough.
to the MPAs here: we are all women in what is sometimes a very difficult profession. I know it's competitive - but that doesn't justify hurting one another - nothing can justify the cruelty and lies and fabrications and exaggerations that women have posted about their peers here.
I don't care who you think you are, at the end of the day, the rest of society looks at us all as being one in the same. If we cannot show kindness - or at least be somewhat civil to one another.. then we destroy the most basic support system that is available to us - one another.
Yes - there's competition - it will always exist... but competition breeds winners. When I was at HFH - that staff was frigg'n incredible... I looked around me and saw stellar attendants. Knowing that a guy could walk in and get incredible service from pretty-much anyone there kept me on top of my game. Every time a reputable girl came to work with us, I embraced her addition - I felt it was great for everyone... it means guys would be more willing to glance at our website, or walk-in, or call on a whim.
This same line of thought can apply to the massage section of our industry as a whole. The more stellar attendants out there, the better it is for all of us.
Just play fair guys. Don't cut one another up to make yourself feel superior. Don't write fake praise for yourself - it's transparent and unnecessary. Don't write fake bullshit about your peers in the attempt to cause hurt ... it's so so so incredibly unnecessary. Don't tell lies and exaggerations to your clients about other girls; Karma will swing back in your direction. At the end of the day - if any of us base our self-worth on the praise we receive on the internet then our biggest issue is with our own self and not with our "annoynous enemies".
We are all in this together whether we like it or not so let's just all please STOP... so we can all stop worrying, and hurting, and hating, and defending, and focus our energy in something that matters. Because this really doesn't. It's not worth it. Please stop.
to the men: I know there are a few instigatiing things here for your own entertainment. Please don't. At the end of the day, it might be funny to you... but I know what it feels like to be hurt... and hurt badly by the cruel things that have been said on the internet about me. My skin is thicker now than it once was - perhaps many of my peers have thicker skin than me... but it is also very-possible that some girls are affected deeply by your words. Please don't make things worse. Please don't hurt people for the fun of it. It's so unnecessary.
There's a big difference between a disagreement and a punch below the belt - please be fair in what you say... please don't attack.
I realize I'm putting myself out to get ripped to shreds... I realize I'm probably an idiot for saying anything at all... but I really am exhausted by ALL of this and I really believe it needs to stop for All of our sakes. I have learned to "turn a blind eye" the majority of the time... but on the occasion that I do look, I'm sickened and ashamed of what people are willing to say about one another for no good reason. This shit has to stop. Please.
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~ "Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in people." ~ David Sarnoff
~"Don't knock your competitors. By boosting others you will boost yourself. A little competition is a good thing and severe competition is a blessing. Thank God for competition." ~ Jacob Kindleberger
~“Jealous people poison their own banquet and then eat it”- unknown
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~ "Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in people." ~ David Sarnoff
~"Don't knock your competitors. By boosting others you will boost yourself. A little competition is a good thing and severe competition is a blessing. Thank God for competition." ~ Jacob Kindleberger
~“Jealous people poison their own banquet and then eat it”- unknown
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I understand your sentiments, but I think you are trying to swim upstream on this issue. It is the nature of anonymous message boards, where people have no accountability for their actions (words) to have misinformation. People who read these boards should understand that the information is at best, unreliable. I realize that people often believe what they read, but they should be more sceptical.
ReplyDeleteWe should certainly not believe any outlier comments (like you described) written on anonymous boards without confirmation of the facts from a reliable source. That's just crazy.
They should teach this stuff in school. The real question here IMO is: “Do you believe everything you read on the internet?”
So Jenn, I'm sympathetic to your situation. You should speak out against it. However, what you're hoping for is not the world we live in. Yet.
Ironically, I'm posting this anonymously.